should be obvious, eh?

Relationships aren't something you figure out, they are to be experienced. And to be experienced, you have to mentall actively be in it. If your mind is busy being consumed with the figuring out part, then you are not really a part of the experience, and not really in the relationship.

You'd think for all of the info and the sheer nonsense I have crammed in my head that remembering this wouldn't be a problem, and that I'd at least occasionally remember even to focus on it.

But no. I'm too damn busy trying to figure it all out...